What My Father Meant To Me

Feb 29, 2012 five to noon

My father passed away on Monday.  He suffered a massive stroke a year and a half ago and after a few months of optimism on our part, he started a slow and fateful decline, so his passing was not unexpected.

This is how I will always remember my relationship with my dad.

The two of us sitting around doing something nerdy involving computers or electronics.  He taught me to program and fueled that passion as often as he could.  We owned a home computer before the Apple II existed and even before most people knew a computer could fit in someone's house.

He had a Ph.D in Astrophysics and it's hard to describe how wonderful it was growing up with a father who could answer absolutely any question I had about spaceships, rockets, planets, stars, galaxies, quasars, black holes, asteroids, the sun or the moon.  I could point into the night sky and ask "what's that?" and he could tell me after only a moment's hesitation.

I am who I am today because of him.  Maniac Mansion, Monkey Island, Putt-Putt or Pajama Sam would not exist if not for him and the way he taught me to think and devour learning new things.  He taught me to love to read, appreciate art and to always question my own beliefs and to be curious and inquisitiveness.

I'm sad he is gone and will miss him terribly, but I will forever be grateful for what he left me.  Our life on this earth is not only what we did, but what we left behind for others.

David Gilbert
Scientist
Avid fisherman (ok, never understood this one)
Ham operator (ke7gi)
Best. Dad. Ever.
1939 - 2012

Other people's comments:

Posted by David Pérez on Feb 29, 2012 twenty to one pm

My most sincere condolences, I hope you'll find the courage to carry on.

Regards.

Posted by A PC gamer on Feb 29, 2012 quarter to one pm

Really sorry for your loss, Ron. Glad to see you at least have great memories to carry with you.

Death sucks.

Posted by Ernesto Borio on Feb 29, 2012 ten past one pm

He does sound like a great dad.
Hope you and your loved ones are ok.

Posted by Starky on Feb 29, 2012 twenty past one pm

The passing of a loved one, even though not unexpected, is very difficult for all.  My prayers go out to you and your family at this time.

Posted by gnome on Feb 29, 2012 twenty five past one pm

My condolences and sympathy. You've been very lucky to have had such a wonderful father and so was he in having such a talented and creative son.

Posted by AMJ on Feb 29, 2012 half past one pm

My sincere condolences.

Posted by Dan on Feb 29, 2012 twenty five to two pm

My condolences, Ron. He sounds like a good man.

Posted by Jenni on Feb 29, 2012 ten to two pm

My thoughts are with you, Ron.  Sounds like you had a wonderful father.  Glad that you have so many happy memories to reflect upon.

Posted by pananag on Feb 29, 2012 quarter past two pm

My most sincere condolences Ron. It is sad to lose our beloved ones. His mark in this life will remain through you, though.

If he was like you, then he must have been a great man.

Posted by Roberto on Feb 29, 2012 twenty five past two pm

My condolences, Ron. I also lost my father last month, and the words in your post could easily be mine. My father had a PhD in electronics and an early passion for computers that he passed on to me. He used to build flight simulators (commercially), and it was amazing to see those machines � I still remember the first simulator of his company: it had no screen (computers were expensive back then), and the pilot had to fly only looking at the sensors and the movement of the plane.

Thanks for your words, "Our life on this earth is not only what we did, but what we left behind for others.". They made me feel better, and I hope you find comfort too.

Posted by Chris on Feb 29, 2012 twenty five past two pm

I'm really sorry to hear this.  I lost my father(B.D.E.) to stage 4 cancer just over a year ago. I still think about him daily, but it's no longer as painful, but I miss him.

You've been a great inspiration on me and the directions I've taken my career Ron. Your games and humor have inspired my art and the strive to learn how to program, so I can only imagine how wonderful your father was to inspire someone as intriguing as you.

I hope for only the best, my sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Posted by Tinker on Feb 29, 2012 twenty to three pm

I am sorry to hear of your loss, and the loss of all the others who shared in your father's life. You have my deepest condolences.

He sounds like a person that made the world a better, richer place. I hope you will find peace, and that coming to terms is not too painful.

Kind regards

Posted by Clarence on Feb 29, 2012 ten to four pm

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. My father suffered a stroke too a few years back and at the moment his still trying to recover from it/ live with the results of it.

Your dad sounds like a great guy and through the amazing things you create I know he left a great deal with you.

Take care,

Clarence

Posted by Richard on Feb 29, 2012 ten to four pm

So sorry to read of your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Posted by Deirdra on Feb 29, 2012 twenty five past four pm

sends condolences

Posted by Pablo on Feb 29, 2012 quarter to five pm

I think i saw this photo in your Pax09 speech...

Im going to see that speech now... again.

Posted by Someone on Feb 29, 2012 half past seven pm

that photo radiates happiness.

Posted by Stina on Feb 29, 2012 ten past eight pm

Sorry to read of your loss. He reminds me a lot of my own Dad who inspired my own "geeky-ness" as well.

Posted by Antonio on Feb 29, 2012 twenty to midnight

I am so sorry.

Posted by ABC on Mar 1, 2012 five to one am

My most sincere condolences, Ron.

Posted by GozzoMan on Mar 1, 2012 half past two am

My deepest condolences, Mr Gilbert.

Posted by Eligius on Mar 1, 2012 ten past three am

Unfortunately I know how you feel, my father also had a severe stroke.

My most sincere condolences.

Posted by TheBishop on Mar 1, 2012 five to four am

I'm really sorry for your loss.

My condolences to you and your family.

Posted by Toptnc on Mar 1, 2012 quarter past four am

My most sincere condolences.

If you think he was the best dad in the world, surely he died thinking he accomplished his mission in life.

Posted by Ed on Mar 1, 2012 twenty to five am

In a way, your father touched all of our lives through you. I wish you and your family all the best.

Posted by Tony on Mar 1, 2012 twenty to six am

So very sorry to hear about your loss, Ron. This was a touching tribute to your father.

Posted by EKI on Mar 1, 2012 quarter to six am

May your father be an inspiration for present and future fathers.
He sure did a good job.

Posted by Sebastien Ferran on Mar 1, 2012 twenty past six am

My sincere condolences for your loss and my meaningful thanks to your dad for having inspired such a genius as you.

Posted by Damian on Mar 1, 2012 twenty five past six am

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my father last month, after 13 months of being in hospitals after he fainted and had severe brain damage.
It's really hard. Too hard sometimes.
I feel so lucky to have a son, who's been my comfort and has given everything some meaning.
But the loss feeling... it's still there. You feel alone, if you know what I mean.
Big hugh from Spain. Be strong.

Posted by Rob Schwarz on Mar 1, 2012 ten past seven am

Very, very sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was an awesome father, and I love that photograph. I wish your family the best!

Posted by Walter on Mar 1, 2012 five past eight am

I'm sorry Ron. Keep flooding the plant of his life in ur heart. That's the way

Posted by Grog on Mar 1, 2012 twenty five past one pm

The apple is the legacy of the tree, so judging by the apple, it was one hell of a tree.

Posted by Someone on Mar 1, 2012 half past one pm

A really touching post, I am so sorry for your loss

Posted by brawsome on Mar 1, 2012 five past two pm

My condolences Ron. Your Dad sounded awesome. You're really lucky. The coolest thing my Dad ever did was fix a skylight with an umbrella.

Posted by ga on Mar 1, 2012 ten past two pm

Your writing about your dad overflow with love. He will be with you forever, he will live in your thoughts

Posted by Someone on Mar 1, 2012 twenty five past two pm

my thoughts are with you, ron. this is clearly a difficult time, but i am happy that you bonded with your father so well throughout your life.

Posted by Martijn on Mar 1, 2012 twenty to seven pm

Sounds like your dad was a very smart and inspiring man, hope you will be able to come to terms with your loss over time.

Posted by Fuz on Mar 1, 2012 five to eight pm

My deepest condolences.

Posted by Ron Gilbert on Mar 1, 2012 five past eight pm

Just wanted to thank everyone for the kind words.

Posted by Peter Krogtoft on Mar 1, 2012 five to nine pm

Im really sorry to hear this - My deepest condolences goes out to you and your family.

Posted by Oded Sharon on Mar 1, 2012 ten to ten pm

Condolences and 73. 4X6NB

Posted by DrGonzo on Mar 2, 2012 twenty past two am

My sincere condolences, Mr Gilbert.

Posted by Morten on Mar 2, 2012 five to three am

My condolences and sympathy.

Posted by Roderick Leeuwenhart on Mar 2, 2012 quarter to six am

My sympathies, Ron. It sounds like you had a wonderful dad and a wonderful relationship with him.

Posted by Henrik Koskinen on Mar 2, 2012 half past six am

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Great dads are a great treasure, always.

Posted by Kroms on Mar 2, 2012 four pm

My condolences, Mr. Gilbert. He sounds like he was wonderful.

Posted by Chip Morningstar on Mar 2, 2012 quarter past seven pm

I'm so sorry Ron.  My thoughts are with you and your family.  All I can say is, he done a good job.

Posted by Bat Fastard on Mar 3, 2012 half past four am

Not very good at this condolence stuff... but sorry for your loss Ron, your father sounded like he meant the the world to you. Can't imagine what you must be feeling like right now.
R.I.P David Gilbert
Father of a legend, and a legend in his own right.

Posted by Fher on Mar 3, 2012 twenty five past six am

I'm really sorry Ron, I lost my dad one month ago, as one friend said once to me, we will never overcome it, but we will get used to it :(

Posted by Francesco on Mar 3, 2012 half past seven am

From now on when you'll point your finger to the nightsky maybe you' ll don't know the name of every stars..but you will always know and recognize the name of the  the brightest one...trust me.

An Italian fan.

Posted by David on Mar 3, 2012 ten past ten am

I almost cried when I read this. My father is the same age as yours, and today started chemotherapy.
I really feel your loss.

PD: You made me happy in my childhood.

Posted by Alex on Mar 3, 2012 five to one pm

I am really sorry for your loss

Posted by ChrisF on Mar 3, 2012 one pm

So sorry for your loss Ron, my own father has always supported my nerdy side too, and the memories of us building various models and stuff are so important to me.

I do believe that your games have provided similar support to many of your fans, thank you, and your father, for this.

Posted by DasJan on Mar 3, 2012 twenty to four pm

My condolences, Ron. Your words were very moving.

Posted by Ruzom on Mar 4, 2012 six am

So sorry for you and your family, Ron. My most sincere condolences.

Posted by George on Mar 4, 2012 eight am

I'm very, very sorry. Dealing with a father's loss is hard, especially if he was the ''best dad ever''. I know that only too well unfortunately.

So here are my condolences Ron. Be strong, like your dad wanted you to be.

Posted by Davide on Mar 4, 2012 quarter past noon

While we thank you for your work we thank also your father..
Life in all its aspects (like choices, merits) is just a matter of luck,
like the luck of having a wonderful father.
I'm sure you repaid him in pride.

Posted by on Mar 4, 2012 twenty past one pm

My condolences and a big hugh.

Posted by FL on Mar 4, 2012 ten past four pm

My most sincere condolences, Ron.

Posted by Momo on Mar 5, 2012 twenty to two am

Condolences, Ron, I know that this is a day that everybody must face eventually but I don't know what I'll do when it arrives for me.
Your father sounds a bit like mine, also a PhD who could answer any question I had, either with a down to earth translation of his vast knowledge, or a humble conversation about a topic that was new to us both. I can't imagine life without him.

Posted by Mario Gomez on Mar 5, 2012 quarter to eight am

My most sincere condolences Ron. May he rest in peace.

Posted by Adam Hearn on Mar 5, 2012 twenty past noon

So sorry for your loss. You have some great memories and these will remain with you forever.

Posted by ColinP on Mar 6, 2012 twenty five past midnight

Really sorry to hear that, Ron. He sounded like a great man, someone who's life should be celebrated.

Posted by Loren hansen on Mar 6, 2012 twenty five to one pm

My condolences. He sounds a lot like my father, who introduced me to computers through Monkey Island.

Posted by Siebe on Mar 6, 2012 twenty past one pm

My condolences Ron. Your short and beautiful description of him really made clear what a remarkable person he was. I'm sorry for your loss.

Posted by F.Konkas on Mar 6, 2012 ten to seven pm

My condolences Ron. Sounds like he was an awesome dad, which is a great quality for a man to have.

Posted by Demetris Thoupis on Mar 8, 2012 twenty five past one am

My condolences Ron. A great father always makes a great son. Always cherish the moments you lived with him and be glad for all that you passed with him. Life unfortunately comes to an end at one point. Cherish for the life you had. Never regret for things you did or things you didn't do.. never look back.
All the best and may he rest in piece.

Posted by Diduz on Mar 8, 2012 ten to three pm

I wish I read this a week ago.
My condolences, Ron.

Posted by chewy on Mar 9, 2012 quarter past ten am

my condolences Ron he sounded like a great father, and that was a very touching tribute to him, feeled me with love ! bet he is proud of you !! In a way, "your father touched all of our lives through you" -- love that !! quote by Ed.  and spot on !! x

Posted by Mario Garcés Usano on Mar 10, 2012 twenty five past five am

My deepest condolences, Ron.
Sure he was proud of you, for things like making millions of gamers enjoy with games you developed.
R.I.P.
Warmest regards from Spain.

Posted by Daniel on Mar 10, 2012 quarter to eight am

Even after reading only those few lines I have no doubt he was awesome. Very sorry for your loss.

Posted by Carlo on Mar 12, 2012 quarter to two am

I read it now.
My condolences, Mr. Gilbert

Posted by Jillian Brooks on Mar 12, 2012 quarter past three pm

Sorry to hear that Ron, All the best for you and your family.

Posted by Seba on Mar 14, 2012 twenty to five am

Belated condolences. Salute.

Posted by Andrea on Mar 15, 2012 five past five pm

Very heartwarming letter, Ron.
David Gilbert has indirectly changed my life too. If I'm a computer scientist right now, that's because of Monkey Island.
So, thanks Mr. Gilbert Senior. Rest in peace.
My condolences to you and your family, Ron.

Posted by TheBearPaw on Mar 18, 2012 five to ten am

My sincere and deep condolences, mr. Gibert.

Posted by ryan on Mar 18, 2012 nine pm

Sorry to hear about your father and sorry for your loss.

Posted by r8a on Mar 19, 2012 five past nine pm

Deeply sorry for your loss. Rest in peace.

Posted by Derek on Mar 24, 2012 quarter to six am

None of us can feel your pain Ron. But we all know one day we will have to face the same news and it's sad to know this. Your dad sounded like an incredible person; I mean an Astrophysics with all the answers. How can it get better than that? I'm sorry about the terrible news Ron. I want you to know we are all here to support you and we all want to see you again.

Posted by oznerol on Mar 28, 2012 five to nine am

I'm terribly sorry for you Ron. He sounds like a great man, the article on the la grande observer reveal an extraordinary man.
My deepest condolences for your lost.

Posted by TomᚠTomášek on Apr 1, 2012 ten past ten am

I am really sorry to hear such a thing and I hope you'll have all the strength in the world to carry on. On the other hand, it seems he have been the best dad, which is something not many people has. And his legacy continous.

Posted by MagnetiCat on May 12, 2012 quarter past four pm

Came here to ask a question, and found this post. Sincere belated condolences, Mr.Gilbert, and thanks so much for sharing this with your fans.

Posted by PeterW on May 18, 2012 quarter past seven am

somehow I stumbled upon this page and after reading a little about you and your dad I must say he sounds like an amazing fellow :)
sorry for you loss
I'm glad he taught you so much I'm sure he's proud of what you've accomplished... makes me think of my dad, as a matter of fact i should call him:)

thanks Ron...

Posted by JCC on May 18, 2012 twenty to noon

I am just reading your article 2 months after it happened. I am sorry to hear about it. When I read this, I can only hope that if I ever have a child I will be able to have a relationship with him/her as your father had with you. My father is awesome and I love him (to me, he is the best father ever :) ), but I will be more the father doing the nerdy stuff with my son/daughter, my father is not nerdy at all.

Posted by Acefox on May 19, 2012 twenty past one pm

Just read this update now as well. My dearest condolences, Ron. I can definitely see the impact your father made on your life's work, and we are all thankful for it.


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